The holidays are here and that usually means spending time with family. Some of these people we connect with easily and we are so happy to see them. Others are not quite so easily received. Whether it be old patterns, habits, unresolved issues, our thoughts and feelings are not in a place that supports our well-being and connection with self and others that we might want. Also, the unsettling times in which we live can tend to exacerbate worry, anxiety, resentments, anger and a myriad of other thoughts and feelings that are difficult to manage. Here are 4 pointers to help you get along with relatives during the holidays.
A close relationship with a significant other offers connection, love, fun and a special bond. It also seems to bring about conflict, lack of communication and patterns that can erode the relationship leading to complacency, settling, or separating. We enter into this bond with the best of intentions and expectations whether it be an arranged marriage (still happening) or whether we choose a mate ourselves.
With different levels of consciousness, differing personalities, cultures, changes as we mature and age, how do we continue to grow with our partner over time in a healthy way? We all bring our unconscious, unprocessed needs, wants, and patterns into our closest relationship. This is normal. The good news it can be seen as an exquisite adventure to explore yourself, your partner and the interaction of the two. You are creating a dyad that has never been created before!
Lynn Francis is a Therapist and Life Coach with a private practice in San Diego.